Life is about who you know, and that is a fact.
Reaching out is the single highest leverage thing you can do on any given day, and often the hardest thing to prioritize.
You know you should be reaching out. You tell yourself you'll do it when the timing is right, when your project is further along, when you have something more impressive to say. You convince yourself you're preparing when really, you're hiding.
As the (very sensible) voice in your head may say, "who do you think you are to reach out to that person? They probably won't respond."
This voice stopped me for a long time too. I know how easy it is to talk yourself out of reaching out to someone. It's like having a great idea, always talking about it but never building it. Then one day when you see it out in the world, you'll feel a pang in your stomach because you know, deep down, that it could've been you.
It's time to stop waiting.
Reach Out Party is for you if...
- You have a network, you have experience, but the more people you meet and the more established you are, the more disjointed and overwhelming your network feels.
- You know there is more. You know you need to make a change and level up in your life, but the how is unclear. You have a fire in your belly, but something is holding you back.
- You understand the importance of making and nurturing connections, but you don't have time to reach out consistently.
- You're taking a bold leap. You're looking for what's next in your career, you're starting your own business. You know your people are out there, but finding them feels scary.
- Networking is not your thing. You are not used to reaching out to strangers. You don't like feeling performative, sterile, and boring. You value meaningful connection but not at the cost of being transactional.
- Networking IS your thing, but the way you've been doing it isn't bringing you the results you want.
- You know deep down that reaching out is worth it. You know that the more shots you take, the more likely it is you'll make one. You have that little glimmer of hope. Sparkle in your eye. You are, somewhere, deep down, slightly delusional and believe that maybe, MAYBE reaching out could actually change your life.
If you're looking for a quick hack or a networking template, this isn't it.
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What happens at...
REACH OUT PARTY
Coming Fall 2026
8-Week Mastermind
A structured, high-energy cohort where you'll build your reach out practice alongside ambitious creatives.
6 Pre-Cohort Modules
Delivered before the cohort starts so you can hit the ground running from day one.
Weekly Coaching Calls
5 small group sessions per week for maximum schedule flexibility. Show up when it works for you.
Personal Reach Out Challenge
You define your own challenge. Your goals, your pace, your people.
Private Slack Community
A space to share wins, ask for help, and stay connected long after the cohort ends.
Guest Speakers
Learn from people who've built careers and businesses through the power of reaching out.
Reach Out Party Dashboard
Your personal network mapping and tracking tool. See your connections, track your reach outs, and watch your world expand.
See it in action
6 Modules
What You'll Learn
Mapping Your Mission
Define your goals, set your challenge, and design your intention for showing up authentically.
Finding Your People
Learn the Four Circles of Connection for identifying the right people aligned with your goals.
Finding Your Voice
Write unignorable reach outs that only you could write. No templates. No pitches.
Asking for What You Want
From gratitude notes to moonshot asks. Lead with generosity. Stop shrinking.
Following Up
Build systems for nurturing connections so it stops feeling like a chore.
Increasing Your Surface Area for Luck
A hackathon for your connections. What's possible when you stop playing it safe?
I'd forgotten how terrifying reaching out to people was. It's vulnerable. It costs. Because of that, I'd stopped doing it while telling myself that I was actually great at it but just had no time for it (the mind is a wily lil guy!!).
Carly makes reaching out feel possible again. Reach Out Party feels like holding up a mirror to my own insecurities and fears and realizing that yes, they're real AND yes, it's okay. I can handle them. I can sit in them. I can reach out to people and not wither into shame if they don't respond.
Also, and I've buried the lede here, people DO respond. People are great. Especially the people IN the cohort.
I found someone deep in a Forbes 30 Under 30 list. I sent him a note on his contact form. He said he'd never received such a generous, passion-filled, specific email. Now we're building something together. IT WORKED!
Yes! I debated joining because the concept of reaching out is so obvious. Did I really need to pay money for accountability!? What I didn't realize is how many small limiting beliefs I was clinging onto that are garbage.
The group calls, momentum in Slack and learning from each other is wildly motivating. Woo hoo!
i thought that the actual outreach would be the biggest thing to come out of this but truthfully, the clarity that it's forced me to arrive at on what i am asking for in life has been a 100000000x return
The Reach Out Party has accelerated my career in ways I could not have predicted.
Look at what you've done! I probably never would have written this if I never met you. I'm not sure where this is going to go but I've been in a slump over my job for a while now yearning for something more fulfilling and just hearing someone I really admire say they could use my help makes me feel sooooo much joy and belonging :)
Reach Out Party helped me name what was blocking me and gave me room to experiment my way out of it. I write outreach in my own voice now, with a clear ask.
Carly doesn't just teach you to reach out. She makes you want to.
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(🌱 motivated and inspired by our new community garden)
My reach-out muscles had atrophied, thanks perhaps to working for a big firm for a long time. The RO Party has helped me open up, drop my guard. And then Carly's strategies have helped me work on it as any other skill, or meta skill rather.
Also, Carly is the most high integrity and low cynicism person you will ever meet and that will help you to be a little more delusional yourself.
Broadway
Harvard Business School
Meeting Carol Burnett
Anti-Networking Miami
Teaching at Harvard
Meet Your Host
Every meaningful opportunity I've ever had came from the consistent practice of reaching out. It took me to perform on Broadway stages, hold executive roles at high-growth startups, and have a seat at the table in rooms full of people who felt way out of my league.
I used to think networking was reserved only for people just starting out, but through now 7+ years of doing this work, I keep learning how much more interesting this gets with time and with experience. Our lives are made up of the relationships in them. Reach Out Party exists to help us all remember just how important that is.
carlyvalancy.com
Start:
October 2026
End:
December 2026
Exact dates TBA
Deets:
8 week mastermind
6 modules
Weekly small group coaching
Guest speakers
Private Slack community
Reach Out Party Dashboard
Investment:
$1,850
Waitlist Special
$1,500
Payment plans as low
as $200 a month
If you follow through on the challenge you set for yourself, you will experience a life-changing shift.
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